Hmmm so this is like returning after a hibernation…no I was not hiding inside a cave living on fats stored in my body nor was I in a burrow preparing to give birth, I was just…being lazy.
Ok so now am back…for good I hope. The reason is Shashi Deshpande and her book..The Binding vine.
It talks about a woman who is caught between dealing with a dead child and the agony of another woman whose daughter has been raped. As if all this was not enough she comes to know that her mother-in-law was subjected to rape in marriage.
Life is unfair ..I read when I was a kid. Kid …I was a child once…then I became a girl and now a woman…(well almost ) but I am so happy, very happy that I am a woman. U know why? Because it saves me a lot of trouble. I am not scared of boys anymore…those nightmares that I used to get as a child, of me running in the dark, panting puffing, eyes bloodshot saliva dropping from my mouth…I could feel it, feel the heaviness in my legs, I couldn’t move them but I had to run , there was no choice. N then I saw them..3 of them or 4 maybe I couln’t see clearly in the dark n with my eyes all watery, the tears of fear and anguish… of frustration. I would keep asking myself why do I have to run? Why can’t they? So what if they are men? The darker sex so what? Why has God given them the right , the privilege , the authority to be able to subject a woman to this...RAPE.
Those were nightmares..just dreams thankfully I had a happy childhood and grew up to be a happy person. But not everyone has that luxury. Girls face sexual harassment from a very young age. Sometimes by their teachers, sometimes by relatives , neighbors or even complete strangers. I remember that scene from Monsoon wedding where shefali tells the family how her uncle had taken advantage of her when she was a little girl. Hmmm ‘taken Advantage’ why do we say that? Why advantage? Do we mean that molesting a girl, groping her and caressing her in all the wrong ways is advantage? But for who? The man isn’t it but that is my problem. We are wrong ..all of us, the ones who coined this term …he is wrong (n I say ‘he’ because I am sure it was not a woman) We make them feel that it is a good thing..an advantage, U see we use a positive word..THAT is WRONG. Read this
1) HE took advantage
2) SHE was wronged
So there goes , this is not just how we speak we also believe it. Don’t we? A girl is raped and HER life is ruined, the man , well the Fu#@%r just goes scott free. A man generously ACCEPTS a woman who was raped and he is made some sort of a demigod but have you ever heard of a woman ACCEPTING a man who committed rape? No! cuz the idiot will never have a swollen stomach. He will never give birth to the ‘burden’ , and there I digress again..A burden is it? A child ? really? Ok I understand that the child would remind the woman of the brutality she went through, the total disrespect of her being. Yes those memories will come back to her when she looks at the child. Her child. One can’t force a woman to show motherhood to a child born of
wedlock let alone rape so no wonder such children don’t have a good childhood but what have they done to deserve this?
After writing all this…what do you think what picture am I trying to pose? Ok so if you are complete moron and can’t get what I have been trying to drum into your head since precisely 624 words (How I thank Bill uncle for these small tools) , I am trying to say that RAPE is bad.
But we think differently, we meaning the ‘younger’ generation. Younger meaning the progressive people. We support a woman who has been wronged. We detest a rapist. Good very good. All our sympathies are with a woman who was subjected to this vicious crime. Now think of this - ‘Rape in Marriage’ well this is what happens when u get married to a complete stranger because trust me a man will NOT wait to make u feel comfortable.(exceptions always exist) He has probably gotten married for one and only one reason so stop being wishful.
This is called an Abrupt ending…enjoy it till u can.
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